We celebrated Izzy’s birthday in the only appropriate way—food and coffee with friends. We worked together at Black Pixel and he quickly became a friend and engineer I really admired and respected. I was really sad when he moved down to San Francisco, but a few years later we are re-united again.
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I walked into this store and really liked this jacket I’m trying on. I did not realize it but remembered that I lost 35 pounds this year. I didn’t make any changes but little adjustments; cutting soda, walking more, and got a gym membership to work out with my friend/coworker. The motivation as simply to have more energy to be a more effective designer. You have to take care of mind and body. BTW I got the jacket. Happy New Year!
Don’t teach kids how to code. Teach them art, curiosity, and an imagination to use code to make their ideas tangible.
“The phrase, ‘technology and education’ usually means inventing new gadgets to teach the same old stuff in a thinly disguised version of the same old way. Moreover, if the gadgets are computers, the same old person becomes incredibly more expensive and biased towards its dumbest parts, namely the kind of rote learning in which measurable results can be obtained by treating the children like pigeons in a skinner box.”
—Teaching Children Thinking, by Seymour Papert, 1971
I am an introvert.
To be specific, I am an INTJ when it comes to the Meyers Brigg’s exam—introversion, intuition, thinking, judgment. I like to be alone, analyze, and make quick decisions.
My biggest problem is most people don’t know I am an introvert. I am social and rather outgoing so people often mistakenly think that I am an extrovert. I definitely play an extrovert on the Internet. I love using Twitter, Tumblr, and Instagram to share thoughts and ideas. However, online is different than offline. Online I can control how much I interact and engage with it. Offline, I cannot.
The truth is I find people (especially extroverts) extremely draining. When most people hear this, they get offended, but it is not what they think. What I mean is that being around people really drains my energy. Extroverts, on the other hand, seem to gain energy by being around people.
For me, something like a party is extremely exhausting to me. How can people enjoy just sitting there and talking? There is SO much talking. I enjoy conversations and discussions, but I hate talking. I really dislike having to force myself to “meet people” where I would rather just welcome people being introduced in my life through my own shenanigans.
I always say, “I hate people, but I love persons.” If there is more than three people in a group hanging out with me, I can feel myself get physically tired. When I go to San Francisco or Seattle to visit, I seem to have to take about 4-5 days in isolation to recover from it.
An atypical example of introvert and extrovert is me and my co-founder Adam. I am really outgoing, do a lot of the business development and meet new people. Adam is shy and quiet, but he enjoys being around the company of people, whether it is co-working or hanging out. For me however, being in exile for two years seems like a vacation. People always think that I’m the extrovert and he is the introvert.
It has been a bit challenging for me because I have a lot of friends who I know care about me, and I care about them. However, I do not have enough time to hang out with all of them. When I hang out with them, it physically drains energy (even when it is fun and I have a good time) and then I have nothing left to work on my designs, drawings, or reading.
The other problem is because of my social nature and that I am good with people, others are often drawn towards me to make the connections for them. I feel I attract a lot of people who fall in-between introvert and extrovert.
To be honest, I think that’s the reason I have a cat. I want a pet who I care about and can love, but we can leave each other alone as well.
I really enjoy being alone. I rarely get lonely. The idea of going to a movie by myself, traveling alone, or just having no plans makes people think I am depressed or that something is wrong. However, that’s how I recover.
If I spent all my time meeting up with people to renew their energy, I would have no energy left to focus on what I love: design.
Please understand, if you are my friend, that if I ignore you it isn’t a negative thing. If I did not want to be your friend, oh trust me, I will tell you. However, there is only so much time in a day (and in life) and I just need to focus.